I can’t remember where I heard this first but it has really stuck with me. Everyone wants something and other people are the way to get that something. The question then is how is the best way to get what they can offer.
The way that I’ve found that’s works best is to approach others and the world with the palm up mentality, which is based on the idea of giving first before getting. Peaceful exchange that benefits both parties is the key to prosperity. And one person has to take the lead in this transaction.
Benefits of giving first:
- Reinforces the abundance mentality
- It is empowering
- Creates opportunities that otherwise wouldn’t exist
- Improves your ability to offer value to others
- Builds relationships
- Creates a better world to live in
- Helps others get what they want
Having a palm down mentality locks you in the position of always asking or conniving for something because you are not providing value first. It creates anxiety, resentment and a feeling of entitlement. No one in this world owes you anything.
Having a palm up mentality is a way to view everyone you meet as a person you can give to. This doesn’t mean making it rain with dollar bills on every stranger you run in to. It just means always be the one to extend the hand of friendship first, to offer the smile first, and initiate contact with others.
I’ve learned the hard way that waiting for the world to give you what you want doesn’t work. You have to actively engage with the world and make that first step.
Value is the key to giving. Discovering how you can deliver value to others makes life worth living. That is the essence of practicing the palm up mentality.
Find a way in every conversation and every personal and business relationship you have to put into practice the palm up giving mentality. We can wait for others to give (you’ll be waiting a long time) or you can take the initiative and offer the other person value first.
Commenting on blogs, liking posts, sharing articles and information to others is an easy way to put into practice this palm up mentality. How many blogs have you gained valueable knowledge from for free? That is a prime example of giving before you receive.
When you give to others often the return on that investment of time and attention is not immediate or apparent. This philosophy is not about the one to one return on giving, where you expect to automatically get what you want.
In time the returns come in. The most immediate of these returns is that you feel better about yourself, you’re more calm, more focused on creating value and you improve your knowledge about how to navigate the world.
The best way to begin integrating this idea into your life I’ve found is to practice it first with yourself. Self-improvement, eating better and sleeping more is a way to give yourself your time and attention and in turn your body will give you a strong capable vehicle to deliver value to the world in.
The greatest gift you can offer the world is the best version of yourself.